Spending ALLLLLL day in the studio today - it's such a drag, so as I'm sitting here, watching the sun outside, sitting inside, I have my Apple Mac so I might as well tell you another story and actually ask YOU for some advice for a change, since this thing is just rolling around my head like I don't know what.
Well, a famous couple who are friends of mine have recently separated. I love them ... both! They are BOTH serious sweethearts - and it's really sad they broke up. He had an affair - but I know this was only the fame that put him under this pressure: it's tough when you're at the top, and you get real lonely, not just through the travelling and the constant performing, but just being up there .... it's kind of dizzy. Anyway, these freinds are really really sweet, and now they have split up, they're both inviting me to parties!!!
Anyway, their conditions are: I must not go to any of the other one's parties, if that makes any sense?
Well, last two weeks I went to both parties and I saw him and her, both well, and breathed a huge sigh of relief over the fcat that none of them had noticed I was at the other one's parties. But THEN ... she calls me with a mad bad attitude since one of her freinds who was a 'spy' at the party I was at saw me at his party too!!!!!!!
The story gets worse ...
He then rang me and said sorry, come over for a drink and we'll talk about it. Nooooooo problem, I thought, and over I went (I need to save ONE of these friggin' freindships after all). As we got more drunk, he told me: I really like you, more than just as a freind. This isn't a re-bound thing, you're beautiful. I love you.
OK, so, I've heard this line a bunch of times too, but it WAS real, I'm telling you. Sooooo ... we have been sleeping together, and now the media might find out, I might be in trouble, and yet ... I'm totally addicted to him!!
Should I call him again? Should I not? WHAT DO I DO?
Go for it. Get some love in one form or another. Life is short. You trust him that it's not just a rebound thing, so trust your judgement. You seem to have already choose him over her, so take the plunge.
Posted by: Kevin | March 16, 2006 at 08:51 PM
Interesting scenario but giving a third person point of view, I think if you really regard your friend as a friend you wouldn't do this to her. I don't know the whole situation so my view might be wrong but if you're really her friend you'd take her feelings into condsideration. As for this guy friend of yours if he really "loved" you he'd understand if you wanted things to cool off first but then again that's just what I think.
Rule of thumb is, if you're afraid of other people finding out what you do, it's most probably wrong :D
Posted by: benny | March 19, 2006 at 12:12 PM
Don't go to the other person's party, DON'T hang out with him/her. How old are these people? Fourteen and a half?
In any case, hey it's your life. Do what you like, but let the initial euphoria taper down a little first.
Here's my timeline for relationships:
3 days - Confirmed that this one is human. Can actually communicate.
3 weeks - Not a complete emo wuss-bag. Actually has brains.
3 months - The rose-tinted glasses starts to melt. Guy's pocket roasted from "putting his best foot forward". Sleep deprivation from too many late nights set in.
6 months - You have heard all the stories, done all the lovey-dovey stuff. You know the friends, the family, all the good stuff. The "honeymoon period" is over. NOW, the relationship starts.
Get over the 6th month, and let's see what happens.
Posted by: Vandalin | April 04, 2006 at 10:57 PM